OMG, Check Out Our Detox Results!

I have been doing a lot of Research in books, on line, vie other informed people, and through prayer and I came to the conclusion that my Family was in desperate NEED of a Detox for our insides.

You see I have learned that over time our bodies build up by product (dead viruses, bacteria, and toxins) that does not flush out and stores in our liver, kidneys, brain, intestines, etc... It builds up over time and hinders our bodies from working properly. This can lead to mental disorders, autoimmune diseases, cancers, aches and pains, etc... And many of the foods we eat continue to feed these viruses, bacteria and toxins, rather than help us fight them off. So when we remove specific foods from our diet and add in others, this allows our bodies to flush out the crap, while strengthening and healing our bodies and minds.

So we talked as a family and decided that this would be beneficial to us and with September being the only month in the near future that didn't have Holidays or Birthdays we would be celebrating, it would be the easiest month for us to Jump all in and Do IT!

On September 3rd the day after we returned from a 3 day camping trip, with little to no preparation we began. We still had several of the foods we were going to be abstaining from in our home, but some I just froze, others I threw out, and one gallon of milk everyone decided we would drink up. 

Here is the protocol that we followed:

• We ate zero Animal based products
• Removed grains that contained Gluten
• Did not eat Corn, Soy or any products that included them
• Took out all Sugars, and only used Honey as a sweetener 
• Did our best to avoid any foods that had "Natural Ingredients" added to them.
• Cut out active dry yeast
• We stopped using aluminum foil, and cooking with our copper pans, and tried to avoid canned foods (and use jarred foods instead) switched out our Iron mineral supplements for Iron only sourced from whole foods. 

• Included TONS of fresh veggies from our garden, and at Organic as much as possible
• Ate a Lot of Fruit, making smoothies, eating fresh or adding to our meals
• Added a few supplements, like adaptogens, and pre and probiotics
• We did a Heavy metals detox using Bentonite Clay (ask if you want more info on this)
• Used sourdough (naturally accruing yeast) for our breads (that I made all at home)
• Incorporated new grains we weren't used to eating, ground Millet, brown rice flour, flax seed, and tapioca flour. (I ground my own grains into flour)
• Only used coconut or olive oil in our cooking, baking
• For a chunk of our protein we ate a lot of Lentils and Beans

Well here's the thing, I have only tried cooking/baking gluten free a couple of times, but not Sugar free or vegan. So this was a challenge for me to take on. 

Plus Pinterest does NOT have hardly any GF, SF, and Vegan recipes to choose from, so the majority I had to create on my OWN. 

There were a few days that the meals suffered and we all complained they were nasty, texture, tasty or smell. But for the most part we all REALLY enjoy it and I learned a lot about new foods and spices I had never used before. 

So here is a list of questions I asked each of the family members at the end of the Detox and their answers. Hope this gives you some insight into WHY we did this and how beneficial it was for us. 

 Dad: 

How is your energy level now: Not a big change, but I guess less tired

How do you feel overall: I've had less bloating and heart burn, and my bowel movements are much more regular now, so i'm feeling pretty good

What food did you miss not eating the most: Dairy for sure

What meal did you enjoy the most: Dinner - Broccoli rice noodle stir-fry, and B-fast banana millet porridge. 

Was this SUPER hard to do for 28 days: Not really, I enjoyed most all of the meals

What did you notice that was the most unexpected result: I had a few things, I am not as Hangry between meals, I can do push-ups on my hands again, when it's been 3+ months of not being able to (due to joint pains) something funny I noticed my farts rarely stink anymore. 

Weight Released: 7 pounds

Mom:

How is your energy level now: So much better I am feeling I can go all day long without needing a nap.

How do you feel overall: much better, heartburn, bloating, and aches and pains in my back and knees are gone. I was able to Push hard in my workouts without being sore the next day even without Supplements. 

What food did you miss not eating the most: Meat, mostly chicken and beef

What meal did you enjoy the most: Baked potatoes smothered with sauteed onions and mushrooms, and Yam Tacos 

Was this SUPER hard to do for 28 days: It was time consuming cooking all our meals from scratch but not necessarily hard.

What did you notice that was the most unexpected result: Almost zero knee pain even though my workouts have gotten more intense and I've added in jumping again, which I haven't been able to do for years. 

Weight released: 7.5 pounds 

14 year old Son

How is your energy level now: I wasn't near a tired only napped 3 times (before I was napping 5 days a week)

How do you feel overall: Much less depressed and anxious (he was telling me 2-3x a day how depressed he was before and he only told me 3 times during the 28 days) My stomach feels happy, no bloating or pain.

What food did you miss not eating the most: Meat was so hard to go with out

What meal did you enjoy the most: Chili mac, and Cinnamon sourdough pancakes 

Was this SUPER hard to do for 28 days: It was tough because I didn't have any snacks to grab and eat. Everything had to be made from scratch so I just didn't eat snacks, cause I didn't want to make them. So between meals I would feel hungry.

What did you notice that was the most unexpected result: The arm and leg pain i have had for like a year is gone, I wasn't expecting that at all, but I am super happy about it. 

11 year old daughter

How is your energy level now: a lot more energy, don't feel as tired when I am at PE in school

How do you feel overall: no more headaches, tummy cramps, or bloating, my body feels really good.

What food did you miss not eating the most: Dairy

What meal did you enjoy the most: The Chili smothered baked potato and the banana berry frosty

Was this SUPER hard to do for 28 days: I like most all of the food so it wasn't hard to do.

What did you notice that was the most unexpected result: I slept better, less anxiety before bed.

7 year old son

How is your energy level now: I feel good, I have lots of energy

How do you feel overall: I slept better, and feel happier

What food did you miss not eating the most: Meat and sugary treats

What meal did you enjoy the most: Chili and Mixed berry smoothie

Was this SUPER hard to do for 28 days: It was easy to follow

What did you notice that was the most unexpected result: The growing pains I would get in my legs are Gone, didn't have any the whole month, I was having them twice a week before.

and Baby is to young to join us. 


I am So Very PROUD of each of my children for joining in and NOT sneaking foods when they were away from the house. The two younger kids even saved candy or treats that people gave them until the Detox was done. That's WILL POWER folks. We all decided that we will only be adding back in some meats, limited dairy items, organic wheat, and Natural sugars (no processed or fake alternatives). Everything else we have removed and will keep out of our Food choices as we feel it Does Not SERVE our Bodies. 

      

I felt Compelled by God to not only teach this to my family but to Reach out and Share with anyone else who is ready and wanting change for themselves.  I have made up several Delicious and filling recipes and will be sharing them with you, so you will not have to start from scratch the way I did. 
I am currently Hosting my first Educational Detox Group and the women in it that are participating are All seeing and feeling results, and we are only on day 16, it's been super exciting to watch. 

Moving forward I will be hosting an Educational Detox group monthly. If you are Interested in learning more, message me and I would love to share with you how I run the group and if it might be a good fit for you. 



~ Coach Sherin Stark

Parent's Keep Your Mouths Shut!

Yes I know I may not be very popular with this post but it's been on my mind for days now and I had to share. 
I have read tons of comments about the measles outbreak in Washington state.
People saying things like "Everyone who doesn't vaccinate should be rounded up and shot."
"People who don't vaccinate are willing to kill their children."
"Everyone should vaccinate their children, anyone who doesn't isn't a good parent and certainly doesn't love their child."
It's honestly making me Sick to read how Hurtful humans can be towards each other.
Please LOOK at the images for yourself that I shared, and then Read on. 
MILLIONS, yes that's what I said 1,000,000 every single year die from heart disease, liver disease, kidney disease, and illness directly related to diabetes. 
Yet you never hear any one say "Every one who eats unhealthy ought to be Rounded up and SHOT!" "People who don't feed their children healthy foods are willing to kill their children." "Everyone should force their kids to eat only healthy foods, if they don't they aren't good parents and certainly don't love their children."
Can you see how ridiculousness these statements sound, yet there is more truth to this than to those parents who for what ever reason they have choose not to vaccinate (yes my kids get vaccinated) 
We are killing ourselves by how we feed our bodies crappy foods, don't exercise, drink way too much soda and alcohol, complain about being ill and drugging up to mask the symptoms rather than get to the bottom of why we are sick in the first place. Friends, Research for yourself how you can be effective in keeping yourself Healthy and your kids and keep your mouths shut about other parents choices. None of us need to be pointing fingers or criticizing. Educate yourself and then share what you learn with others, that's the best way to go about it.

Trying to Put Feelings Into Words...Impossible

I am not sure where to start or honestly what is even going to come through my fingers as I type this. 

***Update at the bottom***

However I have been struggling BIG time today with mental stability and telling myself a MILLION Reasons why it's NOT okay for me to have a breaking point. Why I can't be week, WHY God doesn't want to bless me right now, because I am NOT strong enough to give him back what he deserves. 

I have been crying on and off, frustrated so much by that fact I am only human and CAN'T Physically, Emotionally or Mentally do ALL that I feel is required of me Daily. 

As I sit here typing this out can barely see, my baby is kicking my tummy and reminding me of just how difficult hormones can make our lives when pregnant. It beyond TOUGH to battle daily when you want nothing more than to feel "Normal" and yet you can't.

I have tried to reach out to a few people for help and support, and yet it just doesn't seem enough, I just want to SLEEP until i have my baby so the mess of emotions can go away. Yet in all honesty I don't want that at all, I want to Keep running at the pace and life I have created for myself. 

I want to Exercise and burn off stress and release endorphins, I want to eat HEALTHY, cause let's be real I just FEEL Good when I do and my body functions better. I want to remember and make time to Read and study the Gospel of Jesus Christ daily. I want to keep the house hold running efficiently. I want to support others in their desire to get healthy, I want to help bring in an income for our family and relieve some of the burden my husband feels. 

BUT then these HORRIBLE emotions come our of Left field and Drag me down, cause me to beat myself up mentally and leave me complete Exhausted and useless for hours.  

And that's just the half of it, my kids need to go to their therapy and counseling, and appointments and voice lessons, and church activities, and social events, etc... They want and deserve to be kids, even though I don't want to Leave the house and it takes so much energy just to get myself to do so many days. 

Then there's the horrible financial stress of not being able to maintain or continue to build at the rate I was with my Coaching business or the VIPKids (English Teaching) jobs that I was working so diligently. So bills and debt is piling up and we haven't even had the baby yet, which will add a whole other level of $$$ going out to cover those costs. 

YES, I believe I have reached that point that is called the Last Straw, that one that burdens you so much that you simply Can NOT  keep going, it makes you collapse (physically, emotionally or mentally, it's all awful) And as much as I HATE that I have reached this point and certainly had NO intention of allowing any one to know. 

I also know that when others have shared this about their life with me, I have been able to serve, listen, and help them. PLUS I have learned from their experiences, their trials and how they pulled through. 

So still unsure of why I felt compelled to lay it all out like this, but Maybe just maybe someone needs to know, Even if we look like a "Super Hero" on the outside, NO one is, and without Angels to strengthen us both Spiritually and Physically We Simply Can NOT do it Alone. God didn't intend us too and I guess I am finally able to admit through a flood of tears I too can not do it alone, or even with a small circle of support. 

I need your prayers to join with mine to HELP me get through these next 3 months until my hormones can begin leveling out and I can be Stronger than I am now. 

And I beg you if you have unkind thoughts or feelings about this post or why I am sharing too much, or a psycho mess and it's ridiculous that I can't keep it all together, Please just move on, I honestly CAN NOT handle Hurtful comments at this time. Even if you think your trying to help, if you wouldn't want some one to say it to you, don't say it to me. 

To those of you who have been in similar situations as this and have shared your experiences, THANK YOU!!! It's gotten me this far, I have been battling this for several months and feel like I have kept things together pretty well. In fact I bet the majority of you will be shocked that I am at this point because I keep things under wraps, even most of my family has no idea. 

I am NOT going to read back through this so if there are mess ups or typos, just know that half the time I could hardly see from tears and the second half my fingers can't keep up with my brain. However if I reread through this I will most likely NOT share and delete it and then It won't help anything. 

God Is Good and Does have a purpose for me to go through this particular trial, I'm just blinded currently as to why and doing my best to figure it out, until then. Thank you to one of you who has listened to me, served me, or cried with me. Means a lot.

-Sherin
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I Almost Gave Up and Quit Trying...

It's been 3 months since I last attempted a workout, and after I did I ended up hurting for 3 days and need a chiropractic adjustment. So I gave up, every time my mind has considered it, I have allowed TONS of Excuses to Stop ME from attempting it again. 

Yet my Mind Yearned for the Post workout High, the Accomplishment I feel after completing a good sweaty workout. The Mental Clarity it provides me, and one of my Favorite ways to De-Stress. I mean lets' face it, pregnancy, kids, finances, house work all bring large amounts of stress weekly. 


Well this weekend I took my family off the Grid for 48 hours and we went camping with some friends 2 hours away from home and ZERO cell service. It Felt fantastic to be surrounded by people I love and the Incredibly beautiful Creations God's placed on this earth for us to Enjoy. 

My soul was so refreshed and Ready to PUT my excuses aside, 
make a plan, easy into it if necessary but GET Back to MY ME TIME of Exercise along with my spiritual and personal development. I need to be able to make it through these next few months Strong and Ready for a new addition to our family, and right now most days I just feel frazzled, like I am simply surviving the day. 

So Today was the day, I Threw out all the excuses and Pushed Play, put a SMILE on my face even when my legs and arms were shaky and LOVED every second of the 3rd Trimester Prattle workout I did. The Post workout high is flooding me with JOY, Accomplishment, and I am just feeling GOOD!


Today Marks the 6 month point in my 4th pregnancy and I've only gained 12lbs, I would love it if I can keep it under 25lbs throughout the whole time, but with my appetite increasing and lack of exercise I knew this was One More reason I needed to make it a priority again. 

Losing weight after a baby is Flipping HARD, I know!!!  With my first I gained 50lbs, with my 2nd two 40lbs and it took me years to get that weight/fat off my body and build back up my muscles to be able to be FIT, and STRONG and Feel Great. 

***So I want to offer to those of you who are Pregnant along with me right now, or who are recently (6 months or less) post par-tum a Support group to JOIN, that will Assist you on getting back on Track with your Fitness/Food Goals. 


Taking that initial step is Hard, BUT what's even harder is: 
~after that first 4-5 days when your tired 
~your muscles are sore
~you didn't get much sleep last night
~you want to eat a Freaking Juicy Burger and Fries 
and you just Throw out those goals for that one MOMENT of pleasure that it brings. 

Don't let that Happen, let us Support, Encourage and Keep you going until you Reach the Results you Put Your Mind too. 

Ready to Start again???

Message me and lets' get Started.

-Coach Sherin Stark 

Join us Here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Makingitaboutme/

Life is all about "Curve Balls"

Life was seeming to go REALLY Well, I had a new J.O.B. I absolutely Loved, we had just become home owners again after 9 years of renting, the kids were doing well in school and my Beach body business was flourishing. Seriously I couldn't be more happy with the direction life was heading. 

Then, BAM!!!

I started having symptoms that led me to think I may be pregnant, which I still am unsure how (as we were using multiple forms of bc.) Other than  the LORD saw fit that we had another daughter in our family. 

Took me about 3 days for the Shock to wear off (I bought the chocolate bar after the test came back positive to try and calm myself, didn't work, but tasted great.) before I finally thought,  "Okay plans can shift a bit, I can still run my business and because I am already fit and really healthy this pregnancy ought to be much easier, so I can continue running my Beachbody/Coaching business as usual." Things were going fairly well, I had a Fantastic Business Trip that I had earned to Riviera Maya, Mexico in April and morning sickness was mostly gone, so it was going to be AMAZING!!!

NOPE, another "Curve Ball" came my way. Just 3 days before I was to leave on my trip I had terrible lung pain and a massive migraine, so I took myself to the ER and found out after 3 hours and tons of tests that I had a Blood Clot in my lung.               I found out I would not be able to Fly to Mexico and enjoy the incredible all inclusive resort that I had been planning for 18 months and I found out that I would now be giving myself injections of blood thinners for the Entire rest of my pregnancy (6 months)

I do not care for needles, in fact until my second baby I had to have some one talk me through it or hold me down when a needle came near me. Now I was being told I had to stab a 1" needle into my tummy every day, twice a day for 6 months. 

I was Devastated!!!

Well, not only did the blood clot cause the daily injections it also caused me to not be able to keep up with exercise as I couldn't breath well and now get winded so easily. 

How could I possible still be a Health Coach when I couldn't Exercise, and how was I going to stay Fit throughout this pregnancy. I wanted to Scream, Cry and Be ANGRY all at once. 

Folks my life felt like I was trying to grasp at straws at this point and I couldn't Cope, I felt Depression taking over and swallowing me Up and FAST!!!!! 

So I decided I better start focusing Heavily on Nutrition as that could help with depression as well as keeping me Healthy thought the pregnancy. 

I was NOT going to sit down, and Give up and allow this "Curve Ball" to Win, I would Fight, and FIGHT I have!                                                            

I have fought nearly every day to stay above the Emotions that try to engulf me, to keep my sanity, to be the mommy I want to be to my kids, to be the Health Coach my clients deserve. To not lay in bed all day and allow my house to fall apart. I have fought to keep from giving up and although it's been Tough as Heck (Honestly I'm leaving out tons of detail, like how I began having allergic reactions to the injections and itched Insanely for 4 weeks) Probably The toughest thing I have experienced to date in my life. 

*I have Learned, I am STRONGER than I thought I was. 

*I have learned I have Friends who Support, and Keep me going. 

*I have a GOD who leads me to solutions when it appears there are none. 

*I have a Business that I Adore and has Kept me Pushing through. 

I decided to Jump in and try out our New 2B Mindset Nutrition Program which Focuses on Proper Balance in What we Eat, When we Eat it and WATER!

It's truly been a life saver, rather than drown my sorrows in sugary, salty, treats. I have Nourished my Mind and Body with the foods it needs to Fight Depression and Have energy and Feel GOOD!

Here are just a handful of our meals that Taste Amazing, yet are Totally Jam Packed with Nutrition.

I am now 24 weeks into this pregnancy and although I still have parts of my days and even some full days that I just can't shake feeling down and hopeless. For the Most part I look for the Good in my days, I do things that I know keep me happy and busy and I LOVE being able to continue my Passion of Coaching my clients along their Healthy Journey's.

Some have mentioned "If I was you I would just quit that for now until your not pregnant"  But you see, it Brings me joy being able to offer what I know will Work, Get Real Lasting Lifetime Results. Not just in a "Great BODY", but in a Stronger more capable mind, and a happier more at peace soul. I adore that it's been a part of my life for 3.5 years now and I truly hope it wont ever go away.  Because of Beachbody and Knowing how to take care of my body with proper nutrition, even though I have not followed an official workout in 10-12 weeks I still have only gained 7 lbs, I haven't ballooned up due to bad eating choices, or had to be at the Chiropractor weekly, and only had heart burn a few times. 

I am doing pretty well considering all that's been thrown at me.  So of Course I want to continue to Share this Incredible Life Changing Business with anyone ready to give it a try, anyone ready to change their lives mentally, emotionally and physically for the better. 

At the end of each day I try to Remember the Good in the World and what blessings I was showered with, and ways that I can improve just a little tomorrow. 

Don't Let those "Curve Balls" Take you DOWN, Fight for the life you want, It's so WORTH IT!

- Sherin Stark

Finding Joy Amidst the Rain Storms of LIFE!

    I've been planning this for weeks out in my mind. I knew I wanted it to involve Fun, Laughter, and Create Positive memories for the kiddos. 

I thought about so many options of what this day could entail, and finally settled on these ideas. 

Bubbles, Welcome Home chalk sign, Ice cream, Squirt guns, Camping in the tent in the back yard, S'mores after dinner and HUGS!!!

Weston (my 6 year old, who I home schooled for Kindergarten) and I Planned this out and eagerly prepped everything to be as close to perfect as possible. 

We mowed the lawn, watered it (so it would be dry for the tent going up in the evening) wrote out the welcome home message, shopped for the other items and eagerly awaited the kids arrival home from school. 

Although the kids had many responsibility that they had neglected from yesterday and that morning, I didn't want to greet them with frustration or demands of what needed done. So I planned out to have 2 hours of Play with them, then we we focus on what needed to be taken care of and daily chores. We Play, Hugged, ate Ice Cream, Drew chalk pictures and Laughed together for about 30 minutes, then THINGS took a Down Turn Fast!!! :( 

 My oldest son battles ADHD, Depression and Anxiety. Most of the time people don't see it from the outside looking in, as he is pretty well behaved in public settings. 
But when he is in his Safe, Comfortable zones he has bad flare ups and it's so awful to watch and try to help and NOT know how to. Something that may have worked 3 days ago doesn't this time. It's always a game of trial and error and sometimes what we try to calm him with sets him off worse.  

He asked to do something that I had previously told him NO to. He became defiant and did it anyway. 

At this point in my pregnancy I physically can't stop him any more from doing things. So I tried to just be calm about it and allowed him to do it, he said he would only do it for 15 minutes and then he would join the kids and I back playing outside. 

Instead he broke what he was working on and got super angry and then refused to join us and became angry and saying hurtful things to his siblings and I. 

When I asked him to stop and change his attitude because I didn't want this day to be ruined, it of course set him off and he became physical and throwing things and talking about wanting to die and the horrible mom I am and miserable life he lives, etc....


Honestly it Breaks my heart, to hear those words, see his actions and not understand WHY he can't see the goodness around him, and rather only the few negative things that are completely clouding his judgement. 

So this went on for about an hour. He finally began to calm down, and just went back to trying to fix the thing he was working on that broke. Since I was out of energy I just let him do it. 

Then as we had discussed our two hours of play time were up and we needed to move on to chores and other stuff. 


Well he didn't want to do that AT ALL, and made it very clear to me that he didn't plan too. I asked him so kindly and tried to bribe him, and he finally did, very grudgingly. 

Folks remember trying to handle Pregnancy Emotions and exhaustion on top of parenting two other kiddos through all this seriously takes a Toll on ones emotions and physically drive. 

Any who, I wont' go on and on, but finally around 5 hours later (after we gave him his prescribed Anti-Anxiety emergency back up pill) he calmed down enough to eat dinner with us and then go outside and help in the yard a little getting the tent set up and things situated for wrapping up the evening. The meds ended up knocking him out around 8pm in the middle of the lawn last night, while the rest of us were sitting around talking. 


But I wasn't going to let that mess up the plans we had made for the other two kiddos, so once he was out and we helped him to his bed we proceeded with our evening plans of s'mores and camping. (making S'mores in the oven on broil for 2 minutes, then adding chocolate and the top graham cracker, brilliant. you can get several done at once, and no smoke smell in your hair and clothes)

Over all we did make some Great memories and I know this kids will remember the day we had together, I just hope they remember more of the good than the bad.

So why did I take the time to type this all up and share with YOU???

Because I am a huge Believer in Finding the Good in everything, in taking what could be Horrible and finding Joy through it. 

And often times that makes my life come across to others as Simple, Fun, very few trials. But I want you to always Remember God provides us with Trials to help us Grow, Learn and Become Strong and I have plenty of them!!!


There will ALWAYS be Trials, if we look at our life from the negatives rather than the positives, we will be Depressed, Stressed, Unhappy and always Comparing ourselves to others "Perfect, Easy, Wonderful" lives. Which just isn't Realistic. 

I challenge you (maybe even plead with you) to Search every day for the Positive things in life, no matter how small. Allow each day to be a WIN, and learn from the Trials that you are going through.

Don't get Crushed by them, that's no life to live at all. 

Abuse - It Wasn't Your Fault!

      This is an Introduction to Recognizing you were abused, Acknowledging it, and Learning to HEAL from it.

First I want to cover the Forms of Abuse:

Physical/Neglect -  Being pushed, slapped, beat, held down, forced to do things that hurt our bodies or are not normal (eating things that aren't food, being forced to act like an animal), left alone without an adult to care for you (as a child) being forced to go with out bathroom facilities, a bed to sleep in, food to eat, a shelter to protect you, etc...

Sexual - In My book this one is most simple to recognize, If you are touched in any way that makes you uncomfortable and you ask for it to stop and it continues to occur that's abuse. if you were a child, teen, or adult when the abuse happened. It's your body and your Sacred/Private parts and they are NOT to be touched by any one, without your willing permission.

Emotional/Mental: this is the Most Difficult for Sure to recognize and realize it's abuse. Especially when the abuser is good at twisting, manipulating, and creating false truths, causing us to feel confused and left wondering if we were the problem all along. But if you are being belittled, talked down to, sworn at, yelled at, told you are always wrong, told your opinion doesn't matter, made fun of in front of others, or when you ask your abuser to stop and they turn it on you and say "Well if you didn't..., I wouldn't..." etc...  Most likely you experienced emotional abuse.

There are certainly other indicators as well and each and every person's experience is individual and may be abuse to one and not another. So please NEVER compare your experience to some one else to gauge whether you experienced abuse or not.

So Now I want you to watch this YouTube video that I created and then Read the rest of the post.

Watch this one first

Watch this one second

Thank you for taking the time to watch this, a couple things I didn't really mention in the video that I wanted to discuss.
1) Shame -  when our bodies, minds, and souls feel shame we literally vibrate at a low, state of energy which in turn causes depression, stress, anxiety as we TRY to fight that and boost our energy in other ways. Until we address the Shame, and Heal ourselves through self compassion (not self pity) we can not get our energy to vibrate back up at a higher frequency in order to feel Happy, Self Love, Empowered. It's possible temporarily or with the use of medications, foods, etc...
2) Acknowledging that we were abused and Validating it does not mean we need to go around sharing our story with everyone or filling the Victim roll and acting entitled.

But I am telling you from personal Experience that Facing the WALL (Shame) acknowledging it and allowing Healing is the BEST way. The way that Lasts bringing the Energy back up, helping the depression to subside (more often than not) and we will be able to Accomplish becoming who we desire.

I am not an Expert at all in this field, I am an adult who experienced Childhood abuse and is on a Journey to Heal my Soul and Better my physical health.

Plus I have begun noticing that I am allowing myself to abuse my own children emotionally and I Want that to STOP!!!!  So Please feel free to reach out and share your story if you feel the need, or to ask questions if you need to know how to heal or where to turn, and Let's Heal Together!

- SherinStark