Abuse - It Wasn't Your Fault!

      This is an Introduction to Recognizing you were abused, Acknowledging it, and Learning to HEAL from it.

First I want to cover the Forms of Abuse:

Physical/Neglect -  Being pushed, slapped, beat, held down, forced to do things that hurt our bodies or are not normal (eating things that aren't food, being forced to act like an animal), left alone without an adult to care for you (as a child) being forced to go with out bathroom facilities, a bed to sleep in, food to eat, a shelter to protect you, etc...

Sexual - In My book this one is most simple to recognize, If you are touched in any way that makes you uncomfortable and you ask for it to stop and it continues to occur that's abuse. if you were a child, teen, or adult when the abuse happened. It's your body and your Sacred/Private parts and they are NOT to be touched by any one, without your willing permission.

Emotional/Mental: this is the Most Difficult for Sure to recognize and realize it's abuse. Especially when the abuser is good at twisting, manipulating, and creating false truths, causing us to feel confused and left wondering if we were the problem all along. But if you are being belittled, talked down to, sworn at, yelled at, told you are always wrong, told your opinion doesn't matter, made fun of in front of others, or when you ask your abuser to stop and they turn it on you and say "Well if you didn't..., I wouldn't..." etc...  Most likely you experienced emotional abuse.

There are certainly other indicators as well and each and every person's experience is individual and may be abuse to one and not another. So please NEVER compare your experience to some one else to gauge whether you experienced abuse or not.

So Now I want you to watch this YouTube video that I created and then Read the rest of the post.

Watch this one first

Watch this one second

Thank you for taking the time to watch this, a couple things I didn't really mention in the video that I wanted to discuss.
1) Shame -  when our bodies, minds, and souls feel shame we literally vibrate at a low, state of energy which in turn causes depression, stress, anxiety as we TRY to fight that and boost our energy in other ways. Until we address the Shame, and Heal ourselves through self compassion (not self pity) we can not get our energy to vibrate back up at a higher frequency in order to feel Happy, Self Love, Empowered. It's possible temporarily or with the use of medications, foods, etc...
2) Acknowledging that we were abused and Validating it does not mean we need to go around sharing our story with everyone or filling the Victim roll and acting entitled.

But I am telling you from personal Experience that Facing the WALL (Shame) acknowledging it and allowing Healing is the BEST way. The way that Lasts bringing the Energy back up, helping the depression to subside (more often than not) and we will be able to Accomplish becoming who we desire.

I am not an Expert at all in this field, I am an adult who experienced Childhood abuse and is on a Journey to Heal my Soul and Better my physical health.

Plus I have begun noticing that I am allowing myself to abuse my own children emotionally and I Want that to STOP!!!!  So Please feel free to reach out and share your story if you feel the need, or to ask questions if you need to know how to heal or where to turn, and Let's Heal Together!

- SherinStark 

I Don't Have TIME.....

We were all born with Spirits that came with Knowledge and Ability to control our bodies. Our Bodies would be NOTHING with out them, as we know they simply rot and return to the dust of the earth. 

Yet day after day Millions of us claim we do not have TIME to care for and nourish our Spirits. 
Oh we have time to entertain our minds, at a ball game, or movie. We have time to visit with friends and enjoy eating at their BBQ. We MAKE Time every day to Eat, Sleep, Drink, etc.... 

So WHY NOT give Time to our Spirits who control our bodies and Fuel them too???

I have made it a Goal this year to Improve my Spirit and Focus on Nourishing it, just as much as my Physical Body. So far I have learned much, become more able to accomplish the things I desire, and able to Pull through Hard things that I know would have been OVERWHELMING and unbearable before. 

 

 Just like with our Bodies we start out as infants unable to do anything for ourselves, we learn each day, by trying new things. and after a Year of life we have come a long way, most of us could sit up, crawl, giggle, eat (put food in our mouths, or hold our bottles) clap, respond to our parents, etc...


By just 6 months later at 18 months, we are walking, talking, playing with other kids, and so much more.  Well of course we all know that as we continue just one day at a time eventually we become grown ups who can take care of ourselves and then start the cycle over when we become parents. 



So it is with our spirits, if at first it seems wasteful, to do things like Meditation, Prayer, Scripture Reading, taking time alone out in Nature, Serving those who can't serve themselves, Fasting (going without food, or giving up something for a certain period of time) attending Church and learning together the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and of Course many many other ways to grow and nourish our spirits,  Then just remember it takes TIME. 


It takes Years of practice every single day to see/feel changes, and to be able to look back in 2-4-8 years and Realize just how much our Spirit has grown. How much more able we are to find Joy in our daily life. How much more we are able to endure hardships/trials in our life. And how much more our bodies and spirits act together to Create Happy Healthy Lives. 


Yes Eating Healthy is super Important, Daily Exercise is Crucial, getting enough Sleep is Vital, BUT so is Nourishing our Spirits. Which is why we MUST do all 4 of these things and work on them in baby steps each and every day. 

So many of us allow our Bodies to Control us Day in and Day out, without even giving it a second thought. When it should be that our Spirits are Controlling our bodies, telling them what we can and can't endure, reminding them that although the situation we are in currently may be rough we can Pull Through and Find JOY again in our Day to Day. 

Don't allow your BODY to take charge of your Life and Happiness. Start NOW to Improve the way you Nourish your Spirit, just like I have started to do back in January. I can Promise you, it's Very Very Very Worth it, and YOU will feel so much more in a Good Place and able to Enjoy your LIFE more fully. 

www.SherinStark.com